Let’s be real—female friendships often get a bad rap. People call them “too dramatic,” “complicated,” or “overly emotional.” But underneath it all, many women are quietly craving friendships that go deeper—friendships that are anchored in faith, that sharpen you, stretch you, and steady you when life feels like a wild ride. You know, the kind of sisterhood that helps you do life with others.
I recently shared this on the Down and Up podcast with my dear friend Cerinah, and it reminded me just how precious these bonds truly are. We’ve walked through motherhood, business, faith, and what real friendship looks like—and trust me, the wisdom we uncovered is definitely worth writing down.
💫 What’s the secret sauce to a Godly friendship? Simple: it pulls you closer to Jesus. It’s not about gossip or power plays; it’s about growth, accountability, and grace. Cerinah once introduced me to something she calls a “date with God”, a whole day where we pray, read Scripture, and just soak in His presence, side by side but separate. No distractions. That day became a game changer for our friendship. It wasn’t just hanging out—it was bonding at a whole new spiritual level. That’s the kind of connection that lasts a lifetime.
🔁 Accountability isn’t meant to be about competition; it’s about showing up for each other. Faith becomes woven into daily life so seamlessly that sometimes your friend literally bolsters your shaky faith. I’ve lost count of how many times Cerinah has lifted me—her words, her presence, her faith in me always finding a way to carry me higher. We’ve celebrated with each other, built memories with our children, walked through grief side by side, and travelled new roads together. In her, I found a sister in love.
💬 Even though my husband is my best friend (he really is!), there are conversations and feelings only women can truly get. Some women in my faith circle have been lifesavers—pulling me out of burnout, loneliness, or doubt. Female friendships reflect back to you your strengths and your wounds, and yet also hold space for both.
🌱 Jealousy and conflict? Yeah, they might sneak in. But how you handle those moments defines your friendship. Be honest without hurting. Protect your boundaries. Not every friend needs to be a business partner. Cerinah reminded me that boundaries mean emotional space, too—some need frequent check-ins, others might need quiet seasons.
💖 Vulnerability as a person used to scare me, I would keep things light, surface-level, because some friendships really did hurt. But real healing happens when you open up, laugh together, cry together, and get real and personal.
And above all, grace sustains what perfection can’t. You won’t always text back fast or understand each other perfectly, but if grace leads, friendships endure. Because as someone wise said, “You can’t hold offense and love at the same time.”
Godly friendships will refine you. They teach you, They ask more of you . They are, in many ways, a ministry of the heart.
✨So here’s a gentle nudge: call that friend you’ve been meaning to check on. Pray with her, laugh with her, learn from her. Because Sisterhood done God’s way? It’s divine.💛
Do gather a community that feels like home, the kind of souls you’ll carry through decades. For you will need it.